Dowry

Jaime · Posted: Mon Aug 28, 2006 10:17 pm Post subject:

Domo arigato, Anjin San!

P.S. It probably sounds less Japanese if you pronounce the gutteral 'j' correctly.
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caller · Posted: Mon Aug 28, 2006 11:53 pm Post subject:

hogus · Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 4:10 am Post subject:

Beside Piggy’s brilliant English-skills, I realize absolutely that every culture has own rules in view of the dowry.

Honestly I must confess, that I never needed to pay anything to the parents of my passed and also actual Thai-wife.
On the other side I also didn't ask for any dowry, or gifts from my parents-in-law.

In my eyes Thai-customs aren't more superior to western customs.
But, there is also absolutely no reason to start a "fight of cultures" in a mixed relationship.
For me was it the easiest way to avoid problems, that nobody requires for the execution of his cultural characteristics.... and it was working both times.
Of course, it took a little bit time to explain the difference between Farang-customs and Thai-customs, but there was the understanding at last, that the Thai-daughter should lead a hopefully better life, than to destroy her future by cultural stubbornness.

If Thai-parents really love their daughters, and don't want to use them as an investment only, there won't be any big problems to circumvent the Thai-customs of dowry in mutual consent.

If a farang submit his self without any comment, he doesn't need to wonder that he'll pay whatever his family-in-law expect him to pay!

Guess · Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 4:57 am Post subject:

Ah,

Now that you have woken up I would like to ask a purely hypotheical question bearing in mind that ai am of course very happily marrid to a lady who comes along way from Udon Thani. In fact she was born closer to me than Udon.

If I wanted to marry you what sort of dowry would I expect to pay or would we do it the Indian way. BTW you can not count the dogs apart for a mate for my randy little mongrel of course.
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hogus · Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 5:05 am Post subject:

yeah...Good morning, mate....I've an early appointment today...but no worries, I won't change my every-day-rhythm too often! Wink

About your question...hmmm...do you have some camels to offer???...hypothetically, of course
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Piggy · Novice Joined: 03 Aug 2006 Posts: 4

Hello, you're all mistake about my english , i'm not the teach an universary , but about the post of the dowry i have to read in the " thailand Fever " book story , Its a road map for Thaia-Western relationship
i think this book can help many people to understand Thai tradition and western tradition . piggy Wink

Pagey · Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 2:35 pm Post subject: Dowry

Jaime, my apologies. On scanning your name I registered it was not spelt like the UK Jamie but I think my brain associated it with the French word.

If the book Piggy is referring to is the one where one page is in English and the opposite page saying the same thing in Thai then I also recommend it to all Westerners and Thai partners. I found it very informative and it also explains Western cultures to the Thai reader. thumbs up

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DawnHRD · Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 8:13 pm Post subject:

Yes, it's that book. It is very good, but can be amusing in places if the Westerner is female & the male Thai Very Happy

Basic concept is good and IMHO more people in Thai/farang relationships should read it!
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richard · Ace Joined: 18 Feb 2003 Posts: 1989 Location: Hua Hin

Talking of camels,

I was once offered 14 camels and 4 pairs of sandles for my ex-wife

This was in Tunisia 30 years ago just before we married. Wish I'd taken the offer now!!
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migrant · Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 10:14 pm Post subject:

richard · Ace Joined: 18 Feb 2003 Posts: 1989 Location: Hua Hin

Migrant

My alimoney is none existant. She got the house (plus the mortgage) most of my money (hidden off shore I thought) and I'm obliged to pay her 1 pound sterling a year which I default on

Guess things are different in CA

Incidentally where can you go for a smoke (legal one that is) in CA?

Know you can't smoke on the beach anymore. Guess what you do is swim out a few metres with a plastic bag with your smokes in and light up and wave one finger in the air to all and sundry on the beach
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migrant · Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 10:50 pm Post subject:

richard · Ace Joined: 18 Feb 2003 Posts: 1989 Location: Hua Hin

Jesus

90% and then alimony!! Get your ass out of CA and get to Thailand asap

3 miles out? I'm a good swimmer but after a couple of smokes that far out I'd need a boat to get me back!!!

Years since I've been to the states but loved it. Done the east coast including Maine, Chicago where I worked for Johnson Wax and CA where I spent 5 weeks in a 30 foot camper trawling down to Mex then Grand Canyon, Vagas, Death valley and then cruised down the coast back to LA

Great country, but like all, changing rapidly

Had a great boss from CA when I worked for Hewlett Packard who taught me how to chill out

trouble is I'm now too chilled
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